Chapter Summary

Abner deserts to David. Joab's murder of Abner.

Discussion Questions for 2 Samuel, Chapter 3

1. One chapter ago, David brought his two wives to Hebron, but now in chapter 3 he has 6 wives. Is this the ideal that the Lord has for marriage? Why or why not? Where did these other wives come from? Why was this seen as acceptable in these times, but now is totally unacceptable?
2. Compare the differences between David's household and Ish-bosheth's household in this chapter. In what ways does the Lord confirm David's annointing in this chapter? How does the Lord tear down Ish-bosheth's household? Why do you think the Lord uses discord and disunity for His purposes? How has he done that in your life?
3. Discuss the alliance between Abner and David in verses 6-21. What are the political motivations behind this alliance? How does it affect the power dynamics in Israel long-term?
4. Why do you think Ish-Bosheth would accuse Abner of sleeping weith his father's concubine? With Abner's response, do you think he did it? Why or why not?
5. Ish-Bosheth was afraid of his military commander, Abner. How does that mirror Saul's behavior? Do you think Saul trained him to be fearful like his dad? How can we be sure we are training our children correctly?
6. The Lord used this false accusation to fulfill the promise that He had given to David. How has he brought good things out of evil in your life?
7. David's only request was to be reunited to Michal, his first wife from the time he was Saul's servant. Was he right to take her from the man that she was currently married to? Why or why not?
8. Why did Joab kill Abner? Was this revenge worth it? How has revenge served you in your life?
9. Have you ever been unable to forgive a person for something they did? What happened? What does the Lord call us to do? Make sure to use Scripture in your answer.
10. Why was it important for David to distance himself from Joab's murder of Abner? How can we use this as a model to distance ourselves from the wrongdoings of the people that are close to us?

Key Words/Phrase

Great man fallen, v. 38.

Characters

God, David, Joab, Abner, Ish-bosheth, Michal, Phaltiel, Rizpeh, Abishai, Asahel.

Strong Verse(s)

39