Chapter Summary

Ammon's crime. Absalom's vengeance for Tamar's wrong.

Discussion Questions for 2 Samuel, Chapter 13

1. In verse 1, we learn that Amnon falls in love with his half-sister Tamar. What does this situation teach us about the difference between genuine love and lust, and how can we ensure our feelings are rooted in respect and purity?
2. Reflecting on verse 2, Amnon becomes so obsessed with Tamar that he makes himself ill. How can unchecked desires and obsessions negatively impact our spiritual and physical health?
3. In verse 3, Amnon’s cousin Jonadab is described as a shrewd man. What influence do our friends and advisors have on our decisions, and how can we seek wise and godly counsel?
4. In verse 5, Jonadab suggests that Amnon pretend to be ill to get Tamar to visit him. What does this reveal about deception and manipulation, and how do we guard against using or falling victim to such tactics?
5. Verse 8 describes Tamar preparing food for Amnon. How does Tamar’s willingness to serve and care for her brother contrast with Amnon’s intentions, and what can we learn about genuine service and love for others?
6. In verse 11, Amnon grabs Tamar and asks her to lie with him. How do we confront situations where we or others are pressured or coerced into actions against our will?
7. Verse 14 reveals that Amnon overpowers Tamar and rapes her. How can we address and prevent sexual violence in our communities, and what support systems should be in place for survivors?
8. In verse 15, Amnon’s feelings turn to hatred after the act. What does this sudden change reveal about the nature of sin and guilt, and how do we handle feelings of regret and remorse?
9. In verse 19, Tamar puts ashes on her head and tears her robe. How do we respond to and process personal trauma and grief, and what healthy ways can we find to express and heal from such pain?
10. Verse 28 describes Absalom’s plan to kill Amnon during the sheep-shearing event. How do revenge and retaliation perpetuate cycles of violence, and what alternative approaches can we take to seek justice and peace?

Key Words/Phrase

Shame, v. 13, (avenged, v. 32).

Characters

David, Absalom, Ammon, Tamar, Jonadab.

Strong Verse(s)

39